God is Talking!

Do you every hear God talking to you. Are you listening hard enough? Are you even listening at all? Focus listen in, listen to that small voice that wants you to hear his ever command. Isaiah 55:3 tells us how to listen to God. Here is my break down...

Isaiah 55:3 “ Come to me with ears wide open. Listen, and you will find life. I will make an everlasting covenant with you. I will give you all the unfailing love that I promised David”  

Come to me---first we must come to God. You can’t listen to someone if you are not close to them.  It’s like being in the same house with someone you're upstairs and they’re downstairs; when they are talking you can't hear them because you have distance between you two.

With ears wide open---you have to come ready to listen. Going back to the house example; you walk downstairs and you are now in the same room with the person but you aren’t listening; you have blocked them out. Or simply not realizing that they are talking to you.

Listen --- there is a difference between listening and hearing. Hearing is simply hearing the sounds, the noise, and the vibration of one’s voice. Listening however is processing those sounds, noises, and vibrations.

And you will find life --- not "YOU MIGHT" but "YOU WILL" find life. In order to find something you have to be in the search for it. Be in the search to find life from God. If you put in the work he will be glad to give you what you deserve. The flesh that our spirit resides in is dead. There is nothing good that comes from the flesh. Until you know God and seek his heart you are dead. But if you search for him, get to know him, love him, and let him love you...him he will give your life.

I will make an everlasting covenant with you --- he WILL! Not he might but he will make an everlasting covenant. Image something never ending, endless and eternal how amazing is that God is willing to give you something forever no take backs it’s yours. He is able and willing to make a bond with you for the rest of your life on this earth and in heaven. These are things that only God can promise and a promise that will not be broken.  Think about how many times someone has promised you this or that and defaulted on that promise. Their word is no longer bond to you but God can supply you with an everlasting covenant just you and him. 

I will give you all the unfailing love --- here it is again with God saying that he WILL! Not maybe but he will give. When someone gives you something it is yours to keep. Never have to give it back most of the time they just require you to be grateful. Think about a time that you gave someone something weather big or small and they do not say thank you. Do you remember how you felt when they didn’t show any gratitude for what you did out of the kindness of your heart. That is how God feels every day when we do not show our gratitude to him whether it’s not spending time with him daily, disobeying him, or giving him praise when you are at the height or lowest of your life. Unfailing love…when I think of unfailing of think of consistent; Love that will never go away no matter how we act or react. When we think of human love it is most of the time not all the time conditional. We like to say unconditional love but in reality it’s not. Because if someone breaks our heart or does something to us unruly we begin to put those conditions on the love that we said was "unconditional" Not saying that we don't try our hardest not to but we are all human. God is saying I do not give out condition love I give out straight unconditional, unfailing and consistent love. You cannot get that from this world!

I promised David --- think of all the sinful things that David did but yet God still promised unfailing love to him. All the bad that we do, all the things we ignore when God speaks to us. God still promises unfailing love!

Life can sometimes break you down, broken beyond repair but if we take the time and effort to listen to God he can repair all! Take time to pray to God right now. Tell him everything that is on your heart. Talk to him like you are talking to a good friend. When you are finish just sit in his presence silently and wait to hear his voice. Block everything and everyone else out. Put your phone away, turn off the tv and the music, and listen. The next time something is heavy on your heart go tell God first! He already knows what is going on he just wants you to need him. So when you leave out a part of the story because you are so upset or broke he already knows that part. What an amazing God. Trust him and listen to all that he has to say to you.

Love Always Kinna!

Fighting God

When you read the title of this blog you were probably thinking I would never fight God. But if you really think about it we do it so often its like second nature. Gods tells us to stop and we go, God tells us to move and we stay, God tells us to do many things and we play tug a war to get our way! Instead of listening the first time we keep it going and then have to suffer consequences for our actions. 

Key phase is get "OUR" way! We so often put ownership on everything we THINK we provided for ourself but God gave us everything that we have. Our life, car, job, house or apartment, clothes, everything! I continue to say us and we because I'm guilty also!

So the reason I decided to write this blog post was for all who are fighting God when it comes to a relationship that you know is so toxic for your life but you ignore the poison knowing that its harming you mentally. For example: 

- You know he/she doesn't care but you continue give your all.

- You know he/she has no real intentions with you but you keep dreaming and hoping (STOP!) 

- You know he/she is talking to other people and you act like your the only one (You're not!) or simply ignore it.

- You know that you both are going down two different paths in life that just do not mix.

- The biggest: You have so much history with the person that you don't want to let the relationship/situationship go down the drain (let it go down the drain in the sewer and die! Lol no really I'm serious let it go down the drain!) 

Situationship is defined as two people talking, hanging out, dating and/or friends with benefits but has no title and not really progressing! One person pretty much doesn't not want to make a real commitment to the other. SITUATIONSHIP! 

I have a been a situationship for so long its normal to me but I realized this is not normal. I questioned myself recently when did this become normal to me and how. I didn't even have an answer for myself and that hurt to know I may not have cared about myself to stop the relationship before it turned into a "situationship". So I had to come to grips with myself that a change needed to be made and it all starts with my being honest with myself and the other person. Praying to God earneslty to change my heart and keep me strong enough to let go and allow him to take control and trust him wholeheartedly.  

I say all this to make a point that we must stop fighting God and staying in relationships/situationships because we are trying to fight through the struggle and just have high hopes for everything working out for the better. When in reality its never going to work because its not in God's plan and we know this!

So be honest with yourself, let go, and give up the fight. And if you're having difficulties pulling your words together to break things off pray about it. I promise God will give you all the words. 

Proverbs 3:5&6 says it best! 

5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your path straight 

Until next time! 

Sherkinna 

The 45 Day Product Challenge

I am currently transitioning from relaxed hair to natural hair. This is a journey for sure! Today I pulled out the random products that I have brought over the last year or two. And I must say it was wayyyy too many so I challenged myself to use the same products for the next 45 days and see what they do to my hair. Did they dry out my hair? Did they add moisture? Love or hate relationship with the product? 

Today is January 2nd, 45 days from this date is February 16th. Below are all the products that I will be using and I will tell you exactly how I will be using them. 

Let's start! 

This is the best Cowash I have ever used.  I will be using this in place of Shampoo for the next 45 days. 

Leave-in by Carol's Daughter 

Leave-in by Cantu 

A little Shea Butter Oil love this stuff 

Can never have too much oil! Argan oil 

I plan to make Whipped Shea Butter with this Shea Butter! I will post a blog when I do. 

 Usually I wear my hair in a high bun so I use lots of gel everyday because I like my hair laiddd! Lol 

I use this gel to lay down my edges at night and wrap my hair up. 

This edge control was what I use to use but it was way to hard for my hair and I didn't like it so I decided to switch to the one below...

This stuff is EVERYTHING! 

These are all the products I will be using for the next 45 days! More than likely I will go out and purchase more Cowash just because Sally's Beauty Supply Store had it for $5.99 and usually its about $9 or $10! 

Wish me Luck! 

Here is a picture of me with the bun that I normally wear :)